Not feeling 100%? This one’s for you

If you saw someone suffering and you had information that could really help, would you share? Or would you keep quiet, figuring it’s none of your business until that person asks for your help? This is the dilemma I’ve been pondering as I’ve considered writing this newsletter. I...

How To Protect Your Relationship When Emotions Are High

Standing in the checkout line at Woolies, I was suddenly aware of an impulse to sneeze. As I wasn’t unwell, in ordinary times this wouldn’t have been a particularly interesting event. However these aren’t ordinary times, and I was acutely aware that my sneeze (if...

Self Care For The Highly Sensitive Person

Psychotherapist, researcher, and author Elaine Aron coined the term Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) in the mid 90’s and her ongoing work in the field has been changing the lives of sensitive people (and those in relationships with them) ever since....

Feeling Bad After Hurting Your Partner?

All of us make mistakes. To be human is to sometimes fall short of who we really could be (or think we should be).  Our mistakes might be a series of small failures...

How To Behave When You Lose Your Cool

It’s the music that really drives me nuts. Jaunty and upbeat; it’s a loop of auditory torture that stops only for a recorded smiley sounding voice who keeps assuring me that my call is important and that someone will be attending to me shortly....

Too Reactive In Your Relationship? You Need A Better Boundary.

Are you super reactive to stuff your partner says about you?  Do you get triggered, even when you know what they’re saying isn’t true? If so, you’re wasting heaps of precious energy and creating heaps of unnecessary drama for yourself personally and also for your relationship....

Out-talked By a Partner Who Is Better At Communicating Than You Are?

Ever seen a deer in the headlights? Then you’ll know exactly what expression I see on some of my client’s faces when their partners start talking about relationship issues. They look freaked out, frozen, and frantic to avoid annihilation by a partner, who they believe is...