5 Strategies For Protecting Your Relationship From Unhealthy Emotions

Standing in the checkout line at Woolies, I was suddenly aware of an impulse to sneeze. As I wasn’t unwell, in ordinary times this wouldn’t have been a particularly interesting event. However these aren’t ordinary times, and I was acutely aware that my sneeze (if...

Not Your Fault When You Lose Your Cool? Think Again.

It’s the music that really drives me nuts. Jaunty and upbeat; it’s a loop of auditory torture that stops only for a recorded smiley sounding voice who keeps assuring me that my call is important and that someone will be attending to me shortly....

Too Reactive In Your Relationship? You Need A Better Boundary.

Are you super reactive to stuff your partner says about you?  Do you get triggered, even when you know what they’re saying isn’t true? If so, you’re wasting heaps of precious energy and creating heaps of unnecessary drama for yourself personally and also for your relationship....

Out-talked By a Partner Who Is Better At Communicating Than You Are?

Ever seen a deer in the headlights? Then you’ll know exactly what expression I see on some of my client’s faces when their partners start talking about relationship issues. They look freaked out, frozen, and frantic to avoid annihilation by a partner, who they believe is...

Want Better Communication In Your Relationship? Listen Up.

Like many marriage and relationship therapists, I’m constantly promoting the benefits of great communication for couples who genuinely want relationships that really thrive. And also like many marriage and relationship therapists, I’m constantly witnessing partners shut each other down, whilst in the very next breath...

Time Poor Couples Simply Must Get This Right

Keeping a relationship healthy over years and decades is hard, especially for couples who don’t get much time to actually be together. It’s a modern dilemma facing so many modern marriages, and relationships everywhere are buckling under the strain....