unhappy couple
Three reasons why marriages stay unhappy

Are you in an unhappy marriage or relationship? If so, what keeps it that way? Here are three of the most common reasons for unhappy marriages and relationships that apply to my clients. Do they apply to you?...

4 Behaviours that Harm Marriages

Ready to understand the “do’s and don’ts” for healthy and rewarding relationships? At the forefront of evidence based research is the work by Dr. John Gottman and his team at The Gottman Institute in Seattle, who have been studying married couples for decades, with the aim...

Personal space in marriage and relationships

It’s one of the most common underlying issues that couples bring to therapy.   Not necessarily the presenting problem, but certainly an underlying and very powerful influence on how whatever is going on is being handled. And it’s a crucial dynamic of all relationships that couples must...

Communication skills
Conflict resolution for heathy relationships

Yay! Thankfully, in episode 5 of Channel 9's "Married at First Sight", we finally get to see a couple show how conflict resolution skills make for great relationships. After four episodes so far, we’ve now seen numerous examples of how couples destroy great communication when succumbing to...

Where are the relationship experts when they’re needed?

Been watching channel 9’s Married at First Sight? We've reached episode 3, the weddings and honeymoons are over, and our newly-weds are now settling into their first days of co-habitation with their respective partners. But where are the relationship experts when they’re needed? Surely this is...

Emotional flooding harms relationships

Relationships evoke strong emotions. Sometimes they're so strong, partners loose their ability to think and react in healthy ways. Learning how to relate during normal day to day interactions is one thing: managing to do so during times of extreme stress is a completely different...

Relationship secrets: what the marriage research tells us

If you found yourself sitting next to a marriage counsellor at the quiet end of the table at a dinner party, and you got chatting, what would be the questions that you’d want most to ask? Would you be curious about what really goes on in...

Gardens (and relationships) take time!

When we left the city some years ago, we chose a garden with enough space to do pretty much anything we wanted. Our dreams were far in excess of any gardening we’d ever taken on previously. Conversations about plant species sprouted into our repertoire. We’d...