How To Behave When You Lose Your Cool

It’s the music that really drives me nuts. Jaunty and upbeat; it’s a loop of auditory torture that stops only for a recorded smiley sounding voice who keeps assuring me that my call is important and that someone will be attending to me shortly....

Out-talked By a Partner Who Is Better At Communicating Than You Are?

Ever seen a deer in the headlights? Then you’ll know exactly what expression I see on some of my client’s faces when their partners start talking about relationship issues. They look freaked out, frozen, and frantic to avoid annihilation by a partner, who they believe is...

Want Better Communication In Your Relationship? Listen Up.

Like many marriage and relationship therapists, I’m constantly promoting the benefits of great communication for couples who genuinely want relationships that really thrive. And also like many marriage and relationship therapists, I’m constantly witnessing partners shut each other down, whilst in the very next breath...

Tired Of Nagging The People You Love?

Let’s play a game. Choose a behaviour that you can repeat numerous times every single day. Make sure it’s a behaviour that brings out the worst in you, really annoys and exhausts you, never feels good, and leaves you feeling bitter, resentful, and angry towards...

The #1 Most Critical Skill You Need For Relationship Success

You might be thinking it’s great communication, but it’s not. It’s not about your background, education, relatives, values or life experiences either. It’s not physical attraction. All these things matter, but not nearly as much as the most critical skill matters....