How To Stop Defensiveness From Ruining Your Relationship.

We humans are imperfect creatures, and we all make mistakes, so even in healthy relationships it’s inevitable that partners will disappoint each other at times. Whether it’s forgetting to buy the milk, or something far more serious, in all relationships, and even if only unintentionally,...

Not Sure Whether Marriage Therapy Is A Good Idea?

Knowing when to accept relationship challenges as normal consequences of relationship life, and when to sit up, take notice, and get help, isn't always easy. If you and your partner are not sure whether marriage therapy is a good idea, at least you can start by...

Why Relationship Change Starts With You

Ever tried to get your partner to change? How did you try? If you're like many of my clients, you essentially pointed your finger squarely at their face whilst generously offering up your expert advice....

How To Hold Your Ground When You Disagree

If you’re in a relationship you will have noticed that partners don’t always see eye to eye. Knowing how to hold your ground without damaging your relationship is a really important skill for partners wanting a healthy relationship....

Don’t Kick Your Relationship When It’s Down

Do you honour your relationship and keep it safe, even when you’re arguing? Or do you argue in a way that threatens your relationship security? That kicks it when it’s down?...