How To Change, Even When You’re Really Stuck

I know what it feels like to really want to change something about myself, only to find that I can’t make it happen. It’s frustrating, and can leave me feeling helpless and hopeless. At such times it’s easy to believe that I’ll never become the...

How To Repair After A Relationship Bad Patch

I spend a lot of time talking and writing about how to minimise relationship disharmony, and for good reason: I’ve seen that it takes not just love, but actual skill and expertise to keep a relationship on a really healthy and loved-up track....

Tired Of Nagging The People You Love?

Let’s play a game. Choose a behaviour that you can repeat numerous times every single day. Make sure it’s a behaviour that brings out the worst in you, really annoys and exhausts you, never feels good, and leaves you feeling bitter, resentful, and angry towards...

The #1 Most Critical Skill You Need For Relationship Success

You might be thinking it’s great communication, but it’s not. It’s not about your background, education, relatives, values or life experiences either. It’s not physical attraction. All these things matter, but not nearly as much as the most critical skill matters....