Self-soothing strong emotions makes for relationship success

Behaving like an adult during normal day to day interactions is one thing: managing to do so during times of extreme stress is a completely different challenge. Strong emotional reactions are normal when relationships get tough. But this doesn’t mean they are always helpful. Knowing how...

4 Behaviours that Harm Marriages

Ready to understand the “do’s and don’ts” for healthy and rewarding relationships? At the forefront of evidence based research is the work by Dr. John Gottman and his team at The Gottman Institute in Seattle, who have been studying married couples for decades, with the aim...

Personal space in marriage and relationships

It’s one of the most common underlying issues that couples bring to therapy.   Not necessarily the presenting problem, but certainly an underlying and very powerful influence on how whatever is going on is being handled. And it’s a crucial dynamic of all relationships that couples must...

Managing strong emotions in relationships with abdominal breathing

  Relationships evoke strong emotions: the good and the bad. Here's a simple strategy for self-soothing when your relationship is causing stress, anxiety, frustration, anger, or any other strong emotional reaction. It won't take the emotion away, but it will allow you to acknowledge it and respond to...

Great communication takes talking, not texting

Are you communicating with your partner about important relationship issues via text messaging? I don’t mean things like whether you need to pick up milk, or whether you love each other to pieces and can’t wait to get home for a big cuddle. I mean the important...

Where is the instruction manual for relationships?

  Instruction manuals are useful things. Attached to my brand new clothes are a big handful of large labels. They outline for me, in pretty exact terms, how I should care for my new gear. Makes me stop and think about how all sorts of consumer products come with...

Making tough relationship decisions

Being stuck. We’ve all been there. Standing at a fork in the road. We’re facing two choices. And we have to choose one over the other. This is easy enough when the road is, well, literally, a path or track. We peer down one side as far as...

Great communication skills. In Australian politics?

Dear Malcom, Congratulations! Now, please let me ask a favour of you. It’s just a little thing I’m thinking. I’m thinking about when you’re at work. In that big room, the one with all those seats, where all you political people get together to discuss political things. It’s just a...

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