How To Switch From Complaint To Request For a Happier Relationship

Ever been in a relationship with a complainer? Or perhaps you’re prone to a bit of complaining and whinging yourself when your relationship isn’t going right? All of us have days when we feel inconvenienced, annoyed, or even outright furious about something our partner is (or...

How To Stop Defensiveness From Ruining Your Relationship.

We humans are imperfect creatures, and we all make mistakes, so even in healthy relationships it’s inevitable that partners will disappoint each other at times. Whether it’s forgetting to buy the milk, or something far more serious, in all relationships, and even if only unintentionally,...

Don’t Kick Your Relationship When It’s Down

Do you honour your relationship and keep it safe, even when you’re arguing? Or do you argue in a way that threatens your relationship security? That kicks it when it’s down?...

How To Be Angry… (AND Loving)… When You Argue

All couples argue. So we may as well learn how to do it well. Many of the couples I see in practice don’t know how to argue well. So it makes me wonder how the rest of you are doing it....

4 Strategies for Turning Destructive Arguments Around

All couples argue, but not all couples argue well. Having a healthy discussion rather than a destructive argument takes skill. Here are some of the strategies that make a hugely positive difference to couples ready to step away from destructive arguments and into healthier ways...

Self-soothing strong emotions makes for relationship success

Behaving like an adult during normal day to day interactions is one thing: managing to do so during times of extreme stress is a completely different challenge. Strong emotional reactions are normal when relationships get tough. But this doesn’t mean they are always helpful. Knowing how...

4 Behaviours that Harm Marriages

Ready to understand the “do’s and don’ts” for healthy and rewarding relationships? At the forefront of evidence based research is the work by Dr. John Gottman and his team at The Gottman Institute in Seattle, who have been studying married couples for decades, with the aim...