5 Strategies For Protecting Your Relationship From Unhealthy Emotions

Standing in the checkout line at Woolies, I was suddenly aware of an impulse to sneeze. As I wasn’t unwell, in ordinary times this wouldn’t have been a particularly interesting event. However these aren’t ordinary times, and I was acutely aware that my sneeze (if...

How To Switch From Complaint To Request For a Happier Relationship

Ever been in a relationship with a complainer? Or perhaps you’re prone to a bit of complaining and whinging yourself when your relationship isn’t going right? All of us have days when we feel inconvenienced, annoyed, or even outright furious about something our partner is (or...

How To Stop Defensiveness From Ruining Your Relationship.

We humans are imperfect creatures, and we all make mistakes, so even in healthy relationships it’s inevitable that partners will disappoint each other at times. Whether it’s forgetting to buy the milk, or something far more serious, in all relationships, and even if only unintentionally,...

Not Sure Whether Marriage Therapy Is A Good Idea?

Knowing when to accept relationship challenges as normal consequences of relationship life, and when to sit up, take notice, and get help, isn't always easy. If you and your partner are not sure whether marriage therapy is a good idea, at least you can start by...

Why Relationship Change Starts With You

Ever tried to get your partner to change? How did you try? If you're like many of my clients, you essentially pointed your finger squarely at their face whilst generously offering up your expert advice....

Great Marriage Therapy: What It Is… And Isn’t

If you’re like most couples, realising that your relationship isn’t feeling as good as it used to, is pretty easy. Not so easy is finding really effective professional help. Knowing what great marriage therapy is...